MEN ARE FROM MARS?
5-22-2019
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus (1992) is a
book written by American author and relationship counselor John Gray. The book states that most
common relationship problems between men and women are a result of fundamental
psychological differences between the sexes. Gray writes how men and
women each monitor the amount of give and take in relationships.
Regardless of the hype poured forth by feminists,
women’s rights activists, and other left leaning groups, males and females are different. They were created to be different in many
ways. They look different; they have
different sexual functions; different reasoning abilities; different levels of
strength and physical abilities; different psychological viewpoints; and many
others.
That does not mean that one gender is inferior to the
other, just they have different functions as they were created to have.
Institute
for Family Studies
Percentages of polled people who NEVER view porn, by gender. This poll does not include those with
homosexual tendencies.
·
57% of casually dating women vs. 25% casually dating men
·
60% of seriously dating women vs. 25% of seriously dating men
·
61% of engaged women vs. 38% of engaged men
·
65% of married women vs. 37% married men
As
would be expected, more men view porn than women.
The
pornography gap deepens extensively, however, when the frequency of pornographic use is
examined. In other words porn is an
addiction – the more one views the more one needs and the less effect it has on
the viewer.
Availability of Porn
The
advancement of computers and the internet has spawned a vast pornography
industry. One simple search and a click
is all it takes to enter the internet world of porn.
Prior
to the internet the porn business was dominated by the so-called Men’s Magazine
which was primarily popularized and made somewhat respectable by the Playboy tomb. However, the internet porn industry quickly drove
the Men’s magazines out of business, although there were a few Women’s
selections.
Where
legally allowed, strip clubs appear to attract much business. Normal heterosexual men appear to enjoy
viewing naked women. The more they show -
the higher the interest level particularly if they look decent (but not always).
The
recent exhibition with women exposing for display various parts of their body
such as: tight pants highlighting rears
and crotches; high rising shorts displaying the bottom of rears; see through
blouses; tee shirts occasionally with no bra; pants with rips and holes in
them; halter tops; and various other clothing items does not liberate the woman
but invites lustful leering and immoral thoughts among their male audience.
Many
years ago I watched a movie where one of the actors made this comment about a
woman’s pubic area and I paraphrase, “if you think about it, there’s not really
much to see, but I can’t think of anything I would rather look at”. His male companions muttered and nodded in
agreement.
During
the 70’s and 80’s several B movies were produced presenting various levels of
naked women in them. Breasts and rears
were commonly displayed but the pubic area was only rarely exposed. The question is Why? As the above paragraph explains, “there’s not
really much to see”, which I agree with, but why the essential prohibition? The answer: that area is the fundamental core
of lust.
I
have mentioned this subject in another article but it deserves additional
attention. The majority of Muslim and
African migrants allowed to enter the European area, particularly Germany, have
a history of only viewing women fully dressed in robes with their head and face
covered. Being surrounded by girls
wearing tight clothing or very little clothing is more than there depressed
sexual urges can stand. Thus they are
highly susceptible of committing rape and other atrocities.
Normal
traditional women are attracted to men for some reason I do not completely
understand. However normal traditional women
want to be loved, protected, and cared for not to enter male strip clubs. But do women enjoy viewing naked men? The below poll and its information is
relatively recent. The results would
most likely be different if taken in the 60’s and 70’s.
Mister Poll
Assuming you do not personally know the man, does
male nudity hold any interest at all for you.
301 voters have answered this question.
For Women
Only; On Seeing Naked Men
·
29% (88) Only if the man is buff and hot
·
40% (123) As long as the man is
reasonably attractive or reasonably fit
·
33% (101) I would have some level of
interest in seeing most men naked, unless they were grossly out of shape
or unattractive.
·
19% (59) Any and all men, when naked, are of
interest to me.
·
8% (25) I would prefer not to see
any man naked unless we are acquainted
·
8% (25) I would be indifferent about
seeing any man with whom I am not acquainted naked
David and Bathsheba
David
was walking on his palace rooftop and saw Bathsheba naked taking a bath. He later discovered she was married but his
lust clouded his better judgment and he had Bathsheba delivered to him.
2
Samuel 11:2-3 NET One evening David got up from his bed and
walked around on the roof of his palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing.
Now this woman was very attractive. (3) So David sent someone to inquire about
the woman. The messenger said, "Isn't this Bathsheba, the daughter of
Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite?"
David slept with Bathsheba, she became pregnant, and
David tried to get her husband to go home and sleep with her as a coverup. Uriah refused to do so until his military
mission was fulfilled so David sent him to commandeer a military unit where
there was a high possible he would be killed, and he was killed.
It is doubtful David would have had the same reaction
if Bathsheba had been fully dressed or even partially dressed. It was her naked beauty that elicited David’s
lust of the eyes and his extreme reaction.
Biblical Concepts
Scripture
says that God created both male and female humans, in His own image. This implies that God is both male and female
in His image. Although each gender has a
different function, they are both created in or from the image of God which
further implies that God functions as both genders.
Genesis
1:27 NET God created humankind in his own image, in the
image of God he created them, male and female he created them.
The
man was created from the dust of the ground but the woman was created from the
flesh of the man. Once the male and
female were separated and placed in distinct bodies, they were dependent upon
each other for their completeness. That is the foundational truth behind the
institution of marriage.
Genesis
2:24 NET That is why a man leaves his father and mother and
unites with his wife, and they become a new family (one flesh KJV) (implies
they become one person).
From Strongs Concordance Dictionary
Flesh: bâśâr baw-sawr'
From H1319; flesh (from its freshness); by extension body, person; also (by euphemism) the pudenda (the external genital organs of a human being and
especially of a woman) of a man
Several
years ago there was a web blog which hosted an article speaking about the
concept of “one flesh”. In this article,
the author suspected, without proof, that “one flesh” along with the
restrictions concerning women having only one living husband had something to
do with a transfer of DNA during sexual intercourse from the male to the female.
There
is no proof of this idea and there is no experimentation examining this idea to
my knowledge.
Polygamy,
Bigamy and Human Rights
The Bible allows men to have more than one wife. It does not allow a
woman to have more than one husband at the same time. This is seen in both the Old
Testament and the New Testament.
Romans 7:2-3 NET For a married woman is bound by law to her
husband as long as he lives, but if her husband dies, she is released from the
law of the marriage. (3) So then, if she is joined to another man while her husband
is alive, she will be called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is
free from that law, and if she is joined to another man, she is not an
adulteress.
These verses
stop women from having more than one husband living at any one time. They do not
stop men from having more than one wife because firstly, they quite simply
don’t say it, and secondly, it is clearly not a general principle which applies
regardless of sex. That can be seen in the way the Old Testament repeats and
rewrites laws that apply to men where they apply to women, and in the immediate
context of the passage in Romans. The reason the Bible gives is that a woman is
under the law of her husband until he dies. While the Bible does talk of
marriage partners having authority over each other’s bodies, it never talks of
a man being under the law of his wife.
This highlights another principle which rules out
polyandry through God’s system of leadership. 1 Corinthians 11 shows that this
is:
·
God is the head of Christ
·
Christ is the head of man
·
Man is the head of woman
This would be defined by our society as sexist, but
the Bible clearly treats men and women differently – so does God – otherwise
men would be able to have babies too! The order does not signify inequality.
The Bible teaches that Christ is God just as much as the Father. They are
co-equal but have different roles. Obviously, man is not equal to Christ – so
the passage does allow for inequality. When we return to man and woman we can
see that they can be equal, perhaps in the same way that the Father and Christ are
equal, but equality does not mean they are exactly the same or have the same
rights and responsibilities.
Although
several Old Testament men had more than one wife or concubine (even Abraham) this
practice seems to not be favorable
in the New Testament.
There
could be a reason Old Testament men were allowed to have more than one wife –
perhaps a shortage of marriageable women.
Matthew
19:8-9 NET Jesus said to them, "Moses permitted you to
divorce your wives because of your hard hearts, but from the beginning it was
not this way. (9) Now I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except for
immorality, and marries another commits adultery."
1
Timothy 3:2 NET The overseer then must be above reproach,
the husband of one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable,
an able teacher,
1
Corinthians 7:2 NET But because of immoralities, each man
should have relations with his own wife and each woman with her own husband.
Hebrews
13:4 NET Marriage must be honored among all and the
marriage bed kept undefiled, for God will judge sexually immoral people and
adulterers.
